Have you ever wanted to be listened to?

Posted on January 23, 2012 by

Have you ever wanted to have that ability to be able to persuade and influence others? To be able to be that super effective communicator?

I invite you to imagine being able to create the changes in your life and others by acquiring the language skills of hypnosis, simply, effectively, quickly. We are privileged to have the “world’s Fastest Hypnotist” coming to Sydney, Australia on 22,23,24 February to conduct his Hypnotic Bootcamp training. Are you up for it.

Check this out www.hypnoticbootcamp.com

See you there. Register quick before the early bird discount expires. This is one of those events that when you imagine looking back in six months time you are so glad that you have invested the time and energy into acquiring these skills.

See you there.

PS this is something I’ve been doing since watching some of what Don does.

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Ethics and hypnosis

Posted on January 22, 2012 by

Trust is one of the greatest personal assets that we have. When it’s broken it’s gone forever.

When I was an accountant (years and years ago) I didn’t like when I saw an accountant defraud a client. When I was a financial planner – I didn’t like it when I saw planners in it for the sale without putting the client first. Now that I work in hypnosis I don’t like it when I see unethical behaviour. This is no good. Unfortunately there are a few bad apples in every profession.

Drop me a line if you want – “Ten things you should know about hypnosis” so this doesn’t happen to you or anyone you know.

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Living Well and Maintaining Weight

Posted on September 19, 2011 by

Well, it was time to get away on the weekend. We headed off to the Central Coast as I was conducting a Bust A Phobia workshop at The Australian Reptile Park.
We decided to stay at Riley’s Bed and Breakfast at Avoca Beach. Wow, what a great place to stay. We could easily have spent another few nights in this beautiful BnB. Surrounded by peace and quiet in a beautiful rural environment. Out hosts, Mark and Hayley looked after us. If you are heading to the Central Coast I can highly recommend it.
Anyway, back to the blog. And the question comes up – can you go out and enjoy yourself without disrupting your weight control program?
The answer, I believe, is a resounding yes.
Our hosts suggested dining at the nearby Rojo Rocket Mexican restaurant. We enjoyed a great evening. Ordered 2 tapas dishes to share, followed by a main which we shared. It was an easy and enjoyable evening without feeling like there had been any excess. Actually it was easier to view in retrospect because it was something that I didn’t have to think about.
You can enjoy controlling your weight without it being a stressful exercise.

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When is a challenge no longer a challenge?

Posted on September 12, 2011 by

For a number of weeks now you’ve been following me on a personal weight control challenge. And I’d like to share something else with you this evening. As the weeks have gone by I’ve noticed that it isn’t a challenge any more. You might ask why that is.

Before I share that with you let me digress for a moment. From external observations I’m told that I’m looking thinner in the face and throat, also around the tummy. The evidence is in my trousers being looser as well. On the lowest notch on the belt. Time for new trousers. Within me, I’m feeling really good. I can feel lighter. I’m also told that I am choosing and serving smaller meal portions. The interesting thing is that I’m not thinking about this consciously. It’s not like I’m stressing out saying “You can’t eat that” or “You got to eat less” or anything like that.

What’s been the key to the change? I believe it’s contained within my “identity”. This is what I worked on via the hypnosis, the recordings I’ve made and listened to. (and continue to listen to a few times a week).

So, for me, the challenge is no longer a challenge because this is me.

Interestingly, there was a news article recently about former contestants of Biggest Loser.

http://news.ninemsn.com.au/entertainment/8294518/ex-loser-stars-slam-the-weight-loss-show

The contestants, through sheer guts, determination and very harsh training lost their excess weight. Then,  when the show finished and after losing that weight, put it all back on plus some extra. You’ll read it in the link above.

My belief is that the missing ingredients to their ongoing success is not having their new identity permanently in place in their mindset and secondly ongoing support and coaching to ensure they were able to maintain their new lifestyle. How terrible to become a new person and lose it.

Where does hypnosis and NLP come in to the picture? These tools can change the mind of those who want to change. You will see the immediate effects of using hypnosis and NLP to quit smoking, remove phobias, eliminate stress and anxiety or even assist sporting performance. In the case of weight control, while the mind will change immediately and perceptual filters adjusted, the external signs will take a little longer to show. Yet slowly and surely the change will begin and continue with the right level of coaching and support.

I’ll leave you with this thought that I read on a Paul Dunn’s Facebook page recently and it goes like this -

“Is the life you’re leading worth the price you’re paying to live it?” T Schwartz.

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Week 9 – Who is in control? You or circumstances?

Posted on September 5, 2011 by

Welcome to your new world. This last week brought up a few interesting mind shifts as I moved through my ninth week of change.

One of my clients was having a discussion with me in regard to personal growth. The concept we were discussing was along the lines that the circumstances around him wouldn’t change until he began to change. What was happening to him was that he would see an aspect of his life and then react to it in a negative way, which affected his state of mind.

SO I asked him – are you in control of your emotions? The answer was yes. I asked “Then why do you let circumstances take over?”. He paused and had to think about that.

In a similar way this can also be seen in weight control. Many people look in the mirror and they see what they are right now. (and I’ve touched on this in a previous post) They forget that this is a historical result of their past eating and exercise patterns.

What’s important is seeing yourself as who you want to become.

One issue that impacts a lot of people is that they feel like they have to fight what’s happening to make change happen. In the context of this line of posts it’s fighting the weight by exercising hard, punishing the self and dieting to the point of starvation to make a change.

As I was reading today I came across this quote-

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete” Buckminster Fuller. (Speed Manifesting by Lori Mitchell, p134)

How does this relate to weight control? Change the model. How do we change the model and where do we make the change?

I’d like to suggest that we change our thoughts, beliefs, attitudes and habits, our perception of ourselves.

The how is in the tools of hypnosis and NLP.

“Be the change you want to see in your world”

Have a great week.

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Week 8 – Weight Control Challenge – Run, Jump , Splat

Posted on August 28, 2011 by

Run, Jump, Splat. Looks like a strange title, doesn’t it. Let me explain it and then demonstrate how it links in to weight control for you. This is the insight that came to me this week.

As far as the change work in the mind goes, it is possible to create some very powerful changes immediately. Have you had that experience yourself? When maybe you used to hold on to that old belief in the past and then something occurred to cause you to review that belief and let it go.

Sometimes we can be challenged by change in both a physical and subconscious sense. I call this run, jump, splat. It’s a concept I learned in my business coaching work. It works a bit like this. Imagine yourself running towards a wall. You build up the speed, jump and then SPLAT – you hit the wall. In a physical sense the wall was too high. With mind change there can also be a run, jump, splat experience.This is where the concept, thoughts, habits, beliefs appear to be a wall too high to jump.

Yet, there is a very effective strategy to overcome the physical and mental walls in life. Would you like to know it? Of course you do, and I’ll share it with you now.

It’s simply this – break it down and put in steps. If you go back to your imaginary wall and picture yourself putting a few steps leading up the face of the wall. This time you as you run up to the wall you can jump to one step, then the next and the next and then over the wall. If any of these steps causes you to run, jump and splat then guess what, put a few steps in here as well. This can be applied to physical goals like working towards a sporting competition or saving for a holiday.

In the world of the mind it might be that the concept being delivered to you is too big for you to accept immediately. Using the same strategy mentioned above you can gradually make shifts by asking questions that achieve small shifts until you are able to “jump” this wall. This is something you can do in your conversations with others where you want to shift the other person’s position – if its ecological that is.

For the work that I do in assisting my clients to create mind shifts I use a mixture of hypnotic language and NLP processes to chip away at the mortar holding the old stuff together. Chip away, chip away at that mortar until the wall falls down.

For me, this week was an insight into both continuing the mind shift work I’d started doing on myself and also breaking down the physical goal to achieve my ideal weight target.

In the mind shift I’ve been continuing to listen to my hypnotic recording daily and also making new recordings to fine tune and continue the belief change. On the physical side I’ve broken down the target into smaller “steps”.

I’m happy with the continuing change. The weight continues to come off, clothes are fitting more loosely and I’ll be buying some new outfits soon. The feedback by way of comments also continue in a positive manner.

That’s my update for this week and I hope you can utilise this concept in your life too.

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Week 7 Weight Control Challenge – Identity

Posted on August 21, 2011 by

Identity – who am I?

This week I had a terrific insight open up for me. Again, it was a shift from a concept that I knew in my head to a concept I took on board as part of me.

Let me ask you, what do you identify with when you think about your own self image? (to keep it in the context of weight control). Do you identify as a fat person, a thin person, a well built person, a fit person, a flabby person or whatever you may identify your self as? Do you want to know how you can tell what you identify with?

Listen to your language! Every sentence that starts with I am….. gives you a clue. Every time you here say things like:-

I am fat,

I am hopeless at losing weight

I am no good with self control when it comes to food

I am worthless (plenty of subject matter here)

Or, I am great and valuable.

I am a loving person

I am a winner and a champion

I am……… you fill in your own statements here.

When you say “I am” at the beginning of a statement you are saying “I identify with myself as being ….” whatever it is that you say. This is so powerful. If you hold a positive identity then great. If you hold a negative identity then not so good, trouble brewing.

Let me share a story with you on how powerful this concept of identity is. You may or may not know of Natalie Cook. She and her partner won an Olympic Gold Medal in Beach Volleyball at the Sydney 2000 Olympics. Last year on the Gold Coast I had an opportunity to listen to Natalie tell her story. What I found really compelling was that part of her story that related to her mindset and her identity as a Gold Medal winner BEFORE she became a Gold Medal winner. Yes, that’s right, BEFORE. Natalie focused on what she wanted, her goal of being the Gold Medalist at the Sydney Olympics. She took on the identity of being that gold medal winner, without any doubts. Natalie surrounded herself with positive affirmations – “I am” statements.

Personally I found another one of her “identification” techniques incredibly powerful. Natalie put up a picture of a gold medal on her bathroom mirror so that when she stood in front of the mirror what she saw was a gold medal winner. Her focus, her belief and her identity was totally on being a gold medalist. She became that woman that she saw in the mirror. If you would like to find out more about Natalie, click on the link below.

http://www.nataliecook.com/about-natalie.htm

Can you see where I’m going with this? Identity.

For me, I was walking across a city street in Sydney during the week. My thoughts were about various clients I have been working with on weight control. A question hit me out of the blue – Do they really identify with what they want to achieve? I put the question into a sharper focus and asked myself – What do I identify with? Am I a 90kg guy or am I an 80kg fit, healthy, vibrant man? When I considered the question and identified with the 80kg it created a mental shift that feels as though I am well and truly on the path to become what I am focusing on.

How do you relate to this? Do you believe and identify with the person that you are aiming to become?

When you look at the person you are aiming to become, can you put yourself in that picture, hear what you are hearing, see what you are seeing and feel what you are feeling at that time? Imagine yourself experiencing life in all aspects from that perspective. Are you enjoying it, can you improve that picture?

This is a very enriching and empowering exercise that can propel you towards becoming what you want to be. Not just in weight control but in all aspects of your life.

Creating this type of change in another person so that they have a powerful personal identity is a wonderfully rewarding experience, especially when using such tools as hypnosis and NLP.

Again, I ask you, what do you identify with? If you are happy with it then great. If you want to change that, let me know.

Have a great week.

 

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